"RELATIONSHIPS..."

 


Relationships are built for so many reasons
For business
For friendship
For humanitarian reasons
For love
For admiration
For blood ties
Some even for convenience
Others forcefully...

Relationships are like a chess game
Any move must be well thought, calculated
As relationships between people are sensitive to all kinds of things
A wrong move can ruin them or if not ruin
Leave a mark that will bring up pain or anger
Deception or depression

Relationships help us to learn about ourselves
At the same time we learn from others
A different way of being and seeing things
It is surely a fascinating thing
When the "engine" that makes them work
Is mutual appreciation, respect, and love
So rewarding, uplifting!...

Relationships between children are very transparent
Literal - black and white
They have just two extremes:
The like a lot or the dislike totally
Children relate by sharing things in common
Or for the sake of playing
Of course, the relationships between parents and children
When healthy
Are based on needs, love, learning, and permanence
Negative ones are based on fear, hate, oppression, unhappiness, low self-steem
Abuse of all sorts...

Relationships between teenagers
Are based on attraction, likes, or friendship
Teenagers crave for belonging
For getting fit in a group
Unconditional acceptance
It is a matter of identity
Loyalty, devotion
Taking risks and sense of adventure 
Are also part of their core
They are also very intense
When happy they are extremely happy
Everything one dreams of
When unhappy and fail, bring up a feeling of tragedy
Like a dramatic scene of a movie depicting the end of the world
It is a phase when thoughts and feelings are very polarized inside us

Relationships between adults
Are based on attraction, identification, admiration, trust
Physical attraction or intellectual attraction
Some are looking for absolute commitment with the other
By experiencing 
The challenges of a life in common
Love is a very important ingredient
Loyalty and respect too

Relationships between elderly people
Are based on companionship
Maturity, wisdom, sharing of experiences already lived
Having the sense of protection is very important
Permanence as well

These are just some faces of relationships
But the truth is that there are so many ways to relate
So much diversity regarding meanings and motivations
The stories can be so many... and the outcomes too...

I believe that to learn to relate 
Is the main reason for us to be here in this world
Relationships give us a sense of existence
Safety, comfort, and being worthy to someone
They can bring to the surface the best or the worse in us
They can make grow very positive things
Or destructive ones
It depends on the importance people give to them
How much they prioritze relationships in their lives
 For some it is just a way to satisfy personal needs, nothing else
It is a case of just taking, no giving at all

It is very complex what goes underneath some relationships
Some get addict to them and become extreme dependent
To the point of obsession
At this level of "blindness"
Some kill to not lose a relationship to another person
Some turn a relationship into "slavery"
Dominance is so opressive that suffocates
The other person becomes an object to be owned
The deepest level of possession...

Each new relationship is like a blank canvas
It is a "work in progress"
It demands devotion
A constant giving
Polishing here and there
Through understanding and affection

Some people take relationships for granted
By doing so
They assume people will be there no matter what
So they forget to nourish them
Neglection takes to the lost of their meaning
Respect and love vanish
Relationships without respect or love
Are destined to turn to nothing 
Like sand castles in a stormy day...

Relationships can be very amazing things
We can learn, mature, and grow a lot from them
They can be a source of happiness and beauty
Something to treasure
Something worthy for a lifetime

I am very proud of most of the relationships I have had along my life
Even if some, for some reason, did not work for long
They still brought me something I could learn from
They left memories and a fingerprint within

It is interesting that with some people
The relationship will last and get deep
With others will be just a brief meeting and nothing more
It is just a minute and passes
Will never touch us in any way
Will not become something to be remembered
Or missed

I consider relationships a school
Through others we learn to value certain things
Learn to see the world in perspectives we would not be able to predict by ourselves
Some relationships empower us
Some take all the energy away from us
Leaving just a trace of emptiness and desolation...

Some relationships leave a story
In our hearts and minds
They even change us
For better or worse
They have this power to shape our personality along our lives
They can be pain or healing
Bring light or darkness
Make us love life in full
Or wish to stop living

Relationships demand us to be strong and tolerant
Sensitive, generous, self-confident
They can open doors and windows
Or close all of them in a matter of an instant
Some are a new path of possibilities
Others a dead end

Relationships are challenges
To the world of reason
The world of emotion
Which we are made of

Losing a relationship can be a nightmare
Building one a dream come true
Can be relief or curse

So many things are a possibility
Every time a new relationship comes to us
We can discover things never imagined
We can be so surprised by the way it can makes us feel
About us, others, and life experiences

Relationships are like the ocean
They can be larger than life
Hit us hard
Or just pass almost as an unnoticed wave
They can take us to a complete new dimention
Of colors, sensations, lessons, miracles
Give us strength and courage
They push us to deep waters
Can be made of peaceful waves or tsunamis
Navigate in them can be a journey full of challenges
And unexpected visions
We need to be equipped with humbleness and giving
Listening and understanding
If we want to make them to work
They can be warm and comfort
Or drain us to the bottom and leave us stuck there
Without oxigen to survive

Umpredictable is their fate
Bcz relationships are made of building blocks
They dont come ready
Some relationships become deeply rooted in us
If for some reason they have an end
A part of us will go with the ones we related
Part of them will stay in us
Both parts will turn into memories
Both sides will not die to one another
If the relationship was mutually meaningful

Relationships can be wars or the light at the end of the tunnel
Tenderness or emptiness
Wisdom or ignorance
Sweetness or bitterness
A chance to rewrite life
Or a risk to be exposed to a sort of "emotional death"

What we are doing of our relationships?
How much faith we have on them?
How much we invest of ourselves to keep them?
Is there proper balance between giving and taking?
How much we judge, how much we understand?
How much we accept, how much we neglect?
How much we want to keep it?
At what cost?
How far we are willing to go to keep it?
They bring more conflicts or solutions?
Give sense of loss or gain?
Love or pain??
???

(Simone)

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